About Me

I’m Coach Kevin Martin (he/him), and I help gay men come back home to their bodies, release sexual shame, and build a more accepting, connected relationship with themselves through mindful self-pleasure, meditation, embodiment, and intentional self-exploration.

For most of my life, I was disconnected from my body.

I grew up on a 150-year-old family farm in rural Ohio in a religious community where sexuality, vulnerability, and emotional expression often felt unsafe. Like a lot of gay men, I became really fucking good at hiding. I learned how to perform the version of myself that felt acceptable while quietly distancing myself from the parts of me that felt too much, too sensitive, too emotional, too sexual, or simply too different.

I spent years believing my body was something to manage, my sexuality was something to justify, and my desires were something to keep under control.

That way of living eventually caught up with me.

After healing from sexual abuse, abusive relationships, profound heartbreak, and years of internalized shame, I started asking myself a very different question:

What would happen if I stopped hiding from myself?

That question changed it all.

I began to understand that healing wasn't going to come from fixing myself. It wasn't going to come from becoming less sensitive, less emotional, or more acceptable. It was going to come from learning how to actually be with myself.

To breathe. To feel. To listen. To notice what was happening inside my body without immediately judging it or trying to change it.

And eventually, that brought me to pleasure.

I began exploring self-pleasure as a way of reconnecting with myself. A way of slowing down. A way of getting out of my head and back into my body. A way of practicing presence, choice, curiosity, and trust.

That’s the foundation of the work I do today.

Mindful self-pleasure isn't about chasing an orgasm. It’s about learning how to be present with yourself through sensation, breath, touch, and pleasure.

For many of us, our relationship with pleasure has been shaped by shame. We’ve learned to rush through it, hide it, perform it, consume it, or use it to escape from what we’re feeling. We’ve learned to compare our bodies and our sexuality to everyone else’s. We’ve learned that there is a “right” way to look, feel, desire, touch, and experience pleasure.

I want to help you unlearn that shit.

My work gives you space to slow down and actually listen to your body, to notice what feels good and what doesn’t, to explore your own boundaries and desires, to experience touch without having to perform for anyone else, to discover that pleasure can be a practice of presence rather than something you have to earn, achieve, or explain.

Sometimes that work happens through mindful self-pleasure. Sometimes it’s a naked guided meditation. Sometimes it’s movement, breathwork, conversation, or simply learning to sit with your own body without immediately trying to judge it.

Nudity isn't the goal. Pleasure isn't the goal. Even orgasm isn't the goal.

The goal is connection.

I create spaces where you can practice being fully present with yourself, free from the expectations, comparisons, performances, and shame that have taught you to disconnect from your body.

As a Master of Science in Psychology graduate, a certified coach for over a decade, and a former counselor and therapist, my work draws from psychology, mindfulness, emotional processing, nervous system regulation, and years of studying sexual empowerment.

But more than anything, it comes from lived experience.

I know what it's like to believe you’re too much. I know what it’s like to believe your body isn’t enough. I know what it's like to disconnect from yourself because being fully yourself once felt unsafe, and I know what it feels like to begin finding your way back.

Today, I lead clients through 1:1 talk-based and naked guided meditation sessions and in-person experiences designed to help you reconnect with your body and your own capacity for pleasure. I also create educational content through my online platforms, including OnlyFans, where I explore mindfulness, self-touch, embodiment, and the relationship between pleasure and our nervous systems.

Everything I create comes back to the same question: What would it feel like to finally feel at home in your own body?

I don't believe freedom comes from changing who you are. I believe it comes from releasing the shame that taught you to hide.

And then, little by little, learning to fully see yourself again, especially by yourself.

Xoxo,
Coach Kevin

Photos by Brian Kaminski